Emotional Damage!

 

 

Hey there! Let me start with this pop culture reference: ‘I’m Fragile!’ Handle with care! Or even the best one- a Pookie! I find myself amazed coming through these references of this generation. There was also a meme famous regarding a man announcing with a bang- “ Emo-Tional Da-mage!” It became so relatable with people that it can convey to you my million words through just being in the blog title! Today, we will think and magnify thoughts upon something we all have been through- an Emotional Damage!

Getting Emotionally hit in the face is very obvious. Let me tell you why. See, we all are living and interacting with different brains for whom emotions mean different things. And those same brains also have the impulsive urge to act or speak what it derives, it gets funnier- now other brains can't grasp it as it is! The more I’ve learned about people- the more I've understood that no matter how self-centred a person is, how professionally engaged a person is, or no matter how ‘insensitive’ a person is- ( I don’t believe a concept something like insensitive- either they are sensitive to logic more than emotions or they are less sensitive to what people are normally driven to.) Alright, so no matter how a person is there’s something default about emotions in our brains that we can't restrict.

For example, we often say that a person who is not sensitive is practical. But the truth is, that person is 100% sensitive and emotional, just in ways that go beyond relationships and people. This realization has helped me become a more understanding person, and I believe it can work for you too.  Now, let’s consider emotional damage. When two brains have different neural formats, it affects their thinking, prioritization, expectations, feedback systems, choices, and even tones of language. Each of these elements can clash during interactions, making it difficult for them to fit together harmoniously.

That’s where and how the Emotional Damage takes place. Now, there’s a fancy term – ‘Psychosomatic system’ which means that- it isn't nothing but heartache- When someone dismisses you is for real! Whatever your brain takes as a shock affects your body- your metabolical rhythm alters according to your feelings, your circadian rhythm changes- it changes how you feel and that’s why emotional damage feels like damage. You might be relating to it but talking about the damage isn't going to heal it right?

Healing Emotional Damages: The Essential Tool for Navigating Life's Challenges

 

Motto for Healing Emotional Damages:

 

1. Not everything should be taken personally.

2. Emotional pain affects your biology.

3. It limits your potential.

4. Moving forward is essential; staying stuck hinders not only your growth but also that of those around you.

5. There is always a reason to evolve mentally.

6. Life offers many meaningful purposes.

How to heal emotional damage?

·       When emotionally damaged the best method to heal is to let it out probably right in front of the person who caused it, or to somebody else. This may add valuable advice and a better view of the situation.

·       Next, write journals, and diaries to figure out for yourself- probably even trying to convince the other person’s point of view. Until it hurts you less or doesn’t’ even hurt at all. This will give you clarity in your thoughts and lead to better decisions.

·       Speak out Once you are calmed down, express what exactly hurt you and why it hurt you to yourself or someone close or to the person who hurt you. This will give a resolving direction to the situation.

·       Engage yourself in self-growth activities. This will drive your focus towards your purposes and also will evolve your way of thinking.

Why is healing from emotional damage important? Practically speaking, emotional damage affects your entire being and physiology, obstructing your life's path and diminishing your sense of existence. I would like to emphasize not only the experience of being emotionally harmed but also the impact of causing this harm. Understanding that no one can be perfect all the time and that a person is not meant to fulfil everyone's demands is crucial. It's important to clarify that you can knowingly or unknowingly cause emotional damage. If you are aware that you are causing harm, you must take the initiative to reflect on what went wrong and reconsider your actions toward that person. If you have caused emotional damage unknowingly, it’s essential to step back and allow the person affected to heal. In situations where you are neither the cause nor the victim, be mindful of those around you. Offer a listening ear, validate their feelings when necessary, and try to avoid behaviours that might unintentionally hurt others emotionally.

It is this easy! It doesn’t require much effort. If we want a healthy and efficient social life, we must understand these minute concepts about people to heal Emotional Damage! Be the driving force of your behaviour. Understand people, heal and help others to heal too!

 

-Shrutika V. Patankar ©